Myles Nathaniel Temitope Ayomide Adekoya.
Today is my lovely son's birthday. He has been on this earth for a full year now! Im amazed.
I know that it has been a while since I last posted, but Ive been so busy. I started school on Monday(and I see that my schedule is going to be really hard), and Ive been playing for Myles birthday party. I have the balloons as my background because of his birthday. I thought that because this blog is all about him and his father and everything else, that I should honor his birthday w/ balloons.
Planning for his party has been hard. But it is all coming together. I have a few ppl that have RSVP'd and that's all that matters. I think that as long as a few are there to help me celebrate his birthday then it will be fun. I really don't have too much actually planned for the birthday. Not really any structured games or anything like that. It was my plan to have a clown and a few structured games, but then money fell short and I wasn't able to do that.
For today though, Ola and I woke him up at 12:30 so that we could wish him happy birthday and play and then pray with him at 1:22AM which is when he was born. He was also allowed to open up gifts that were there for him, and enjoyed playing with us for a few hours. And today he is at daycare, and I made sure to buy some cupcakes for him to share with his classmates. Im amazed that my son is 1yrs old, that he can walk, and talk(say some words), and he can express himself really well. Im amazed that the toddler that he has become. And I am ready for the next year ahead, where he really begins talking, and potty training, and more teeth, and everything else that the next year has to offer. I can't begin to imagine and even say out loud, that by tomorrow, my son will be working on his 2nd year on this earth. I'd like to say thank you to GOD and to my son, Happy 1st birthday
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Ohio
When I first found out that I was pregnant, I panicked. I started googling all over the place. I stumbled upon 2 really good pregnancy website(actually three). Whattoexpect.com Pregnancyweekly.com and Babycenter.com. Well both WTE and PW had really good forums, so I joined in late January early Feb and never looked back. I have made some really good friend on this website, and it was really fun to have women to talk to about what was going on with my pregnancy and life, as they were going through the same things. Well...the women on PW came up with a back up board and put it on Cafemom.com so we mingled over there and have been chatting ever since. Well...recently we decided that we wanted to do a meet up right before all of our sweatpeas (name of the group is September sweatpeas) turn 1. Well....Ohio was the choice. So Myles and I will be going to Ohio for a weekend. With all that has been going on with my life, I need that break. Everything was previously paid for...and Im ready for that little sigh of relief. Im also really excited to actually meet these women. They have gotten me through some really tough times, and I would love to put the stories with a real live face. Im excited!
Well my mom of course thinks it's not a really good idea for me to be going on a trip with women that I haven't met. My mom has personal issues and really big trust issues, she really doesn't trust anyone. so of course she thinks Im really stupid for even considering going on this trip. My only issue is back up money. I really won't be taking any back up money with me(because I don't have it). Im also a little scared because I have never been out of IL by myself, let alone with my son. But its just for a weekend, and Im sure that I am going to have fun. Plus Ohio is not that far from IL, so in case of a really big emergency it would only take a couple of hours for Ola to come and get us. But I know nothing like that will even happen. We are going to have such a good time that Im going to look up and notice that its Sunday, and hate that the time passed so quickly. So...Friday we go to OHIO.
Well my mom of course thinks it's not a really good idea for me to be going on a trip with women that I haven't met. My mom has personal issues and really big trust issues, she really doesn't trust anyone. so of course she thinks Im really stupid for even considering going on this trip. My only issue is back up money. I really won't be taking any back up money with me(because I don't have it). Im also a little scared because I have never been out of IL by myself, let alone with my son. But its just for a weekend, and Im sure that I am going to have fun. Plus Ohio is not that far from IL, so in case of a really big emergency it would only take a couple of hours for Ola to come and get us. But I know nothing like that will even happen. We are going to have such a good time that Im going to look up and notice that its Sunday, and hate that the time passed so quickly. So...Friday we go to OHIO.
Monday, August 10, 2009
Looking up...
Things really are looking up for me and my family.
1st. The invitations finally made there way to me. I was getting really worried about them, and mad because I thought that I wasted my money and would have to pay again. Thank goodness they came.
2nd. I spent the weekend(we spend the weekend) with my mom. She really tried to cheer me up about my whole housing situation. She took me out to eat and then on Saturday we all(Myles, her and I) went to Millennium Park and enjoyed downtown Chicago. For a moment, I'd forgotten that the management company of my subleased apartment illegally changed the locks on my apartment(with my items still inside). I'd forgotten about the me having to call the police and them telling me that all I can do is take it up in court. Id forgotten that all of my items were taking out of the house and moved to Ola's little bedroom. Id forgotten it all. But just for a moment.
3rd. When I got back to Dekalb we went to different agencies asking for help, and I was able to get $575 from Salvation Army. $250 from DeKalb Community center, and a possible 150 from a parish in DeKalb. Ola's dad is going to be giving me $575 also. So that means that I have $175 to come up with on my own. Not bad. And...they wont be re renting the apartment out because I have giving them notices that checks from these agencies are on their way. Im _(this) close to moving in.
But...for the mean time....we are staying at Ola's house until Friday. It is on Friday that I am taking my trip to Ohio to meet up with some of my mommy friends. I will be back on Monday, and then its back to Ola's. Probably until that Friday, when Im sure that I will have all the money that I need to move in. So about two more weeks.
When I said I was looking for a miracle, I was, so I put my head to the sky, and asked for that miracle. God sent me three agencies and a wonderful future father in law to be that miracle. Thank you lord. Things are really looking up.
1st. The invitations finally made there way to me. I was getting really worried about them, and mad because I thought that I wasted my money and would have to pay again. Thank goodness they came.
2nd. I spent the weekend(we spend the weekend) with my mom. She really tried to cheer me up about my whole housing situation. She took me out to eat and then on Saturday we all(Myles, her and I) went to Millennium Park and enjoyed downtown Chicago. For a moment, I'd forgotten that the management company of my subleased apartment illegally changed the locks on my apartment(with my items still inside). I'd forgotten about the me having to call the police and them telling me that all I can do is take it up in court. Id forgotten that all of my items were taking out of the house and moved to Ola's little bedroom. Id forgotten it all. But just for a moment.
3rd. When I got back to Dekalb we went to different agencies asking for help, and I was able to get $575 from Salvation Army. $250 from DeKalb Community center, and a possible 150 from a parish in DeKalb. Ola's dad is going to be giving me $575 also. So that means that I have $175 to come up with on my own. Not bad. And...they wont be re renting the apartment out because I have giving them notices that checks from these agencies are on their way. Im _(this) close to moving in.
But...for the mean time....we are staying at Ola's house until Friday. It is on Friday that I am taking my trip to Ohio to meet up with some of my mommy friends. I will be back on Monday, and then its back to Ola's. Probably until that Friday, when Im sure that I will have all the money that I need to move in. So about two more weeks.
When I said I was looking for a miracle, I was, so I put my head to the sky, and asked for that miracle. God sent me three agencies and a wonderful future father in law to be that miracle. Thank you lord. Things are really looking up.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Looking for a miracle...
To help me pay for this apartment. Here is the story:
Before I found out I was pregnant, I was staying in an on campus apartment at my school. When I found out that I was pregnant in Jan. of 08 I wasn't too worried because I knew I could stay in my on campus apartment with my son. Come to find out that they were making a new rule that banned babies and children from being on campus. I stayed in my on Campus apartment until Aug 08 and then I had to go.
I went to stay with my mom and my sister in a one bedroom apartment until I had Myles. When Myles was born I then transferred and stayed with Ola's mom. The whole time Ola was staying in a small town in IL called DeKalb, which is where he went to school, NIU. Well...the living situation didn't work with Ola's mom and I ended up moving back in with my mom. When January came, I was going to start back at school. Ola and I worked it out so that I would find an apartment in DeKalb, and I would take his car and commute from DeKalb, to Lisle(where I went to school). I went to class only Tuesdays and Thursdays, and he went to class Mon, Wed, Fri so that one of us was with Myles at all time(I wasn't ready for him to go to daycare).
I had a real hard time finding an apartment in DeKalb because its a small town with a big school so most of the apartment were already taking in August 08 by the college kids. I finally found an apartment. I was going to sublease from an individual who no longer wanted to stay in his apartment. So technically I was sub-leasing.
Well...the sublease was up two weeks ago, but I asked for an ext. I got a one week ext. to be out of the apartment. I applied for another apartment and got approved, but found out that I needed three months rent plus the deposit to move in. I signed the lease and set up move in date for August 10th. I have not been able to come up with the money, and the apartment that I am in now will not give me another ext. So I must be out of here by tomorrow. And I have no place to go. Interesting. Sad. But I heard that there are ways and ppl that can help me get the money, so I have several appointments for Monday at salvation army, DeKalb community facility and another place. Hopefully they can help. Until then Im going to have to move my stuff out and find some place to put everything. And get a hotel for Myles and I. I am really looking for a miracle.
Before I found out I was pregnant, I was staying in an on campus apartment at my school. When I found out that I was pregnant in Jan. of 08 I wasn't too worried because I knew I could stay in my on campus apartment with my son. Come to find out that they were making a new rule that banned babies and children from being on campus. I stayed in my on Campus apartment until Aug 08 and then I had to go.
I went to stay with my mom and my sister in a one bedroom apartment until I had Myles. When Myles was born I then transferred and stayed with Ola's mom. The whole time Ola was staying in a small town in IL called DeKalb, which is where he went to school, NIU. Well...the living situation didn't work with Ola's mom and I ended up moving back in with my mom. When January came, I was going to start back at school. Ola and I worked it out so that I would find an apartment in DeKalb, and I would take his car and commute from DeKalb, to Lisle(where I went to school). I went to class only Tuesdays and Thursdays, and he went to class Mon, Wed, Fri so that one of us was with Myles at all time(I wasn't ready for him to go to daycare).
I had a real hard time finding an apartment in DeKalb because its a small town with a big school so most of the apartment were already taking in August 08 by the college kids. I finally found an apartment. I was going to sublease from an individual who no longer wanted to stay in his apartment. So technically I was sub-leasing.
Well...the sublease was up two weeks ago, but I asked for an ext. I got a one week ext. to be out of the apartment. I applied for another apartment and got approved, but found out that I needed three months rent plus the deposit to move in. I signed the lease and set up move in date for August 10th. I have not been able to come up with the money, and the apartment that I am in now will not give me another ext. So I must be out of here by tomorrow. And I have no place to go. Interesting. Sad. But I heard that there are ways and ppl that can help me get the money, so I have several appointments for Monday at salvation army, DeKalb community facility and another place. Hopefully they can help. Until then Im going to have to move my stuff out and find some place to put everything. And get a hotel for Myles and I. I am really looking for a miracle.
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Encouragment
Today Ola and I had a meeting with this wonderful woman from my school. I was really worried about Ola and I, and our family situation so I asked her if she would be willing to speak with us, and maybe play mediator. She agreed. I told Ola that she wanted to speak to us, I left out that I set the whole thing up. She really gave Ola and I some encouragement. Sometimes you need someone else to facilitate a talk, and she was the facilitator. It was really nice to get some of our feelings about our life, family, and our relationship. It was also nice to get advise from someone who once was in our shoes. Sometimes we forget that the hard times won't last forever. And she reminded us of that. Sadly we have been having some very hard times, but as my grandmother use to say, "Trouble don't last always." So...thank you Ms. Yvette. We really, really needed that encouragement.
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
So much going on....
The invitations still haven't made there way to me yet. Im starting to get a bit nervous. I hope they are not lost. I feel like Im running out of time.
Yesterday I was so stressed out. Myles is teething and now with out his paci (which we got rid of a week ago) he has been having hard nights. He doesn't wake up, but he is really restless. So yesterday I woke up in a bad mood. Not mad at anyone, just not happy that it was Monday(work day) and I had no sleep the night before. It was then, in the morning, that Ola tells me that he spoke with is mom and she explained to him about how Myles' baptismal would go. I was a bit disappointed, and upset, and hurt because I took out the time to write her an email and she didn't email me back. It seems to me that we can't communicate with each other. She would much rather communicate with Ola, than to communicate with me. I was really hurt by this, but now I am over that. But this really stressed me out yesterday. But I have come to the conclusion that I am not going to stop trying to make nice, I will continue to give out peace even if Im not receiving it back. Its not fair to Ola to have to choose sides, and as far as Im concerned he never will have to. My plan for the baptismal is to have him baptized Catholic(Ola's Catholic ;Im not). If Ola's mom can not come up with a date for when this should be done, we will(together as parents). Anyways...that was yesterday...
Sunday was nice. We went to the Zoo. It was Myles' first time at the zoo, and he seemed to enjoy himself, I was really happy for him. I love doing things, the three of us, as a family. It give me an idea of what the rest of my life will be like. Boy I loved those two.
Myles pointing to animals.
Penguins
Yesterday I was so stressed out. Myles is teething and now with out his paci (which we got rid of a week ago) he has been having hard nights. He doesn't wake up, but he is really restless. So yesterday I woke up in a bad mood. Not mad at anyone, just not happy that it was Monday(work day) and I had no sleep the night before. It was then, in the morning, that Ola tells me that he spoke with is mom and she explained to him about how Myles' baptismal would go. I was a bit disappointed, and upset, and hurt because I took out the time to write her an email and she didn't email me back. It seems to me that we can't communicate with each other. She would much rather communicate with Ola, than to communicate with me. I was really hurt by this, but now I am over that. But this really stressed me out yesterday. But I have come to the conclusion that I am not going to stop trying to make nice, I will continue to give out peace even if Im not receiving it back. Its not fair to Ola to have to choose sides, and as far as Im concerned he never will have to. My plan for the baptismal is to have him baptized Catholic(Ola's Catholic ;Im not). If Ola's mom can not come up with a date for when this should be done, we will(together as parents). Anyways...that was yesterday...
Sunday was nice. We went to the Zoo. It was Myles' first time at the zoo, and he seemed to enjoy himself, I was really happy for him. I love doing things, the three of us, as a family. It give me an idea of what the rest of my life will be like. Boy I loved those two.
Myles pointing to animals.
Penguins
Oh boy...how could I forget? Myles is now 11 months. He turned 11 months August 3rd. Im so excited. He will be 1yrs old in 1 month. WOW.
Sorry this is all jumbled. Lol. I just have so much going on.
Sorry this is all jumbled. Lol. I just have so much going on.
Friday, July 31, 2009
TGIF
Yay! Thank God its Friday. I have some wonderful news. I was approved for the new apartment that I was hoping for! Im so happy. I hate the apartment that I am living in now. And I hated that I was subleasing and not leasing on my own. Im so happy to be moving. The only problem is that I have to come up with 3 months rent to move in. Im a little worried about that, but I know GOD will provide for me, and I put all my faith in him.
Also, I ordered the invitations for Myles 1st birthday party last Friday, and it was suppose to be delivered yesterday. I had them delivered to Ola's address(we don't live together) but the package had my name on it. So...when the USPS man was delivering it, he didn't see my name on the mailbox, and didn't leave the package. So now the package has been sent back to the sender. What a hassle. So I emailed the site I ordered them from and told them the situation. Im hoping they can resend it out today so that it can get to me by Tuesday. I really want them sent out to people by the end of next week. So they can have it by the second week in August, which I think is a good amount of time for a notice. As time passes Im getting more and more excited about everything that is going to happen in the next couple of weeks, or in the next month.
Yay for Friday!!!
Also, I ordered the invitations for Myles 1st birthday party last Friday, and it was suppose to be delivered yesterday. I had them delivered to Ola's address(we don't live together) but the package had my name on it. So...when the USPS man was delivering it, he didn't see my name on the mailbox, and didn't leave the package. So now the package has been sent back to the sender. What a hassle. So I emailed the site I ordered them from and told them the situation. Im hoping they can resend it out today so that it can get to me by Tuesday. I really want them sent out to people by the end of next week. So they can have it by the second week in August, which I think is a good amount of time for a notice. As time passes Im getting more and more excited about everything that is going to happen in the next couple of weeks, or in the next month.
Yay for Friday!!!
Thursday, July 30, 2009
Where my heart is...
The name of my blog is where my heart is....
At this current moment there are two wonderful boys that have my heart. One is my wonderful boyfriend of 4 1/2 years named Ola, and the other is our 10 month old son Myles. These two are my life. And they are were my heart is. I will be talking about my son and my boyfriend a lot. I will also be talking a bit about anything else new going on in my life. Im excited to be starting this blog, and I hope anyone who is reading this is excited too.
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