Again I find myself updating after an extended period of time. I continue to say that I will do better about coming on here, and then I taper off. Now I am sure I will at least update once a week on this blog. I love reading the blog post that I have written in the past. So I am hoping that will motivate me to write things out on here. Plus, writing things out has always helped me. I guess we will start with an update of each of us.
Myles
Myles is a growing boy. He is so smart and has a great over all personality. He has been having some struggles at school. He seems to be looking for attention by doing negative things in the classroom. I do not think that it helps that he sees other children participate in negative behavior and in turn get special one-on-one attention because of it. At home we are trying to reward him for the good things that he does so that he understands that it is good behavior that gets rewarded not bad behavior. Nevertheless, it can be a be hard to reinforce because of the school situation. I really wish we could afford the lovely Montessori school that is around here. I think he would benefit from the structure of the school as well as the way learning is obtained. We are thinking of getting him a chore chart and starting him out with weekly awards to reinforce good behavior. Besides a few behavioral problems Myles is doing well.
Bryce
Bryce will be 18 months in about 16 days. Time is passing by so fast. He is really smart. He knows how to say and sign so many words. He also knows how to say some of the alphabet as well as how count to 4. This month I will be starting potty training with Bryce. I will attempt to do it the same way I did with Myles at this age. Go straight to underwear and do the 3 day method of training. He already goes pee on the potty at school so I do not see this potty training being a problem with him. Bryce will also be turning to forward facing this month. He has been in his infant car seat from the beginning. At his 15 month check-up he still did not exceed the weight recommendations to be out of his infant car seat. So I just kept him in it. I figure by 18 months, and with the tax return money we can buy him a nice new forward-facing car seat. Myles was turned around about this age as well. Bryce is showing some signs of the terrible twos. He has started throwing some fits. I think his fits are a bit exaggerated as well because he has seen what Myles is capable of, in terms of the length and type of tantrum. But on the other hand, Bryce has better language skills than Myles had at this age, so he knows how to communicate his needs better which helps with cutting down confusion. He does not get frustrated often because he can communicate his wants and needs. I think most tantrums at this age is do to frustration because they feel like no one understands what they want or need. We normally understand Bryce very well, and if there is a time where we don't Myles normally can explain what he thinks Bryce is trying to say.
Ola
I am not too sure what to update when it comes to Ola. I guess the first thing that needs to be said is that he is indeed back in school. Yes! Yay! I am so happy about this. School is really important to me, and it is also really important to his mother and father. I am really glad that he has chosen to make it an importance in his life. He is taking classes at the local community college. He will apply to be accepted back in to his university this summer. I am excited about this. I think he deserves to finish his degree. Also he got a promotion at his job in December. This is also good news to him. Working and providing for his family is something that makes him really happy. It also makes him happy that his new promotion means that I do not have to work as hard at my job. Other than that, I can not think of anything else that I would have to say about him. I will say, that he and I have been doing really well. He is learning how to be a good partner for me and a great father for the boys. For him it is all a learning process and I see his willingness to learn has increased in these past months.
Me
First I am happy to announce that Ola and I are getting married. As for right now the date is set for next year, July 6th, 2013. We are really excited about this. We will be going ring shopping the Wednesday after Valentine's day. Also, I am now taking classes that will go towards my Masters in Counseling Psychology. I have mixed feeling about this. I am happy that I am taking this step but I also have some doubts about myself and whether I am capable of actually doing this while being a full-time mother of two, planning a wedding, working, etc. I need to find the confidence in myself and get it together. There seems to be so many people who have confidence in me, I just need to find it in myself. I am also having an issue with not working as many hours as I worked last year. It felt good to work and be able to provide for my family. I am having a hard time depending on Ola financially. It is silly really, but I was raised to be independent and I am having trouble feeling like what's his is really ours. I have always treated the situation the other way around. What's mine is ours but what's his is really his. Silly I know. I have been this way in our relationship for as long as I can remember, actually from the beginning. He has always tried to change this but he has never been able to. But now that we live together and we depend so much on each other, I really do need to change this. When I look at all of this, it seems like I am the one that is struggling with a lot of the change that is going on around here. My children are great, and my relationship is moving forward and yet I feel stagnate. Silly. I would like to blame this on motherhood, why not, can't you blame everything on motherhood? But it truly does not have anything to do with motherhood. It has to do with me. Because of this, and other things, I have chosen to take a step back from the online social networks that I am involved in such as Facebook and Twitter. I need to find time for the things I need to do and things I want to do, such as reading, scrapbooking, and blogging amongst other things.
Myles is a growing boy. He is so smart and has a great over all personality. He has been having some struggles at school. He seems to be looking for attention by doing negative things in the classroom. I do not think that it helps that he sees other children participate in negative behavior and in turn get special one-on-one attention because of it. At home we are trying to reward him for the good things that he does so that he understands that it is good behavior that gets rewarded not bad behavior. Nevertheless, it can be a be hard to reinforce because of the school situation. I really wish we could afford the lovely Montessori school that is around here. I think he would benefit from the structure of the school as well as the way learning is obtained. We are thinking of getting him a chore chart and starting him out with weekly awards to reinforce good behavior. Besides a few behavioral problems Myles is doing well.
Bryce
Bryce will be 18 months in about 16 days. Time is passing by so fast. He is really smart. He knows how to say and sign so many words. He also knows how to say some of the alphabet as well as how count to 4. This month I will be starting potty training with Bryce. I will attempt to do it the same way I did with Myles at this age. Go straight to underwear and do the 3 day method of training. He already goes pee on the potty at school so I do not see this potty training being a problem with him. Bryce will also be turning to forward facing this month. He has been in his infant car seat from the beginning. At his 15 month check-up he still did not exceed the weight recommendations to be out of his infant car seat. So I just kept him in it. I figure by 18 months, and with the tax return money we can buy him a nice new forward-facing car seat. Myles was turned around about this age as well. Bryce is showing some signs of the terrible twos. He has started throwing some fits. I think his fits are a bit exaggerated as well because he has seen what Myles is capable of, in terms of the length and type of tantrum. But on the other hand, Bryce has better language skills than Myles had at this age, so he knows how to communicate his needs better which helps with cutting down confusion. He does not get frustrated often because he can communicate his wants and needs. I think most tantrums at this age is do to frustration because they feel like no one understands what they want or need. We normally understand Bryce very well, and if there is a time where we don't Myles normally can explain what he thinks Bryce is trying to say.
Ola
I am not too sure what to update when it comes to Ola. I guess the first thing that needs to be said is that he is indeed back in school. Yes! Yay! I am so happy about this. School is really important to me, and it is also really important to his mother and father. I am really glad that he has chosen to make it an importance in his life. He is taking classes at the local community college. He will apply to be accepted back in to his university this summer. I am excited about this. I think he deserves to finish his degree. Also he got a promotion at his job in December. This is also good news to him. Working and providing for his family is something that makes him really happy. It also makes him happy that his new promotion means that I do not have to work as hard at my job. Other than that, I can not think of anything else that I would have to say about him. I will say, that he and I have been doing really well. He is learning how to be a good partner for me and a great father for the boys. For him it is all a learning process and I see his willingness to learn has increased in these past months.
Me
First I am happy to announce that Ola and I are getting married. As for right now the date is set for next year, July 6th, 2013. We are really excited about this. We will be going ring shopping the Wednesday after Valentine's day. Also, I am now taking classes that will go towards my Masters in Counseling Psychology. I have mixed feeling about this. I am happy that I am taking this step but I also have some doubts about myself and whether I am capable of actually doing this while being a full-time mother of two, planning a wedding, working, etc. I need to find the confidence in myself and get it together. There seems to be so many people who have confidence in me, I just need to find it in myself. I am also having an issue with not working as many hours as I worked last year. It felt good to work and be able to provide for my family. I am having a hard time depending on Ola financially. It is silly really, but I was raised to be independent and I am having trouble feeling like what's his is really ours. I have always treated the situation the other way around. What's mine is ours but what's his is really his. Silly I know. I have been this way in our relationship for as long as I can remember, actually from the beginning. He has always tried to change this but he has never been able to. But now that we live together and we depend so much on each other, I really do need to change this. When I look at all of this, it seems like I am the one that is struggling with a lot of the change that is going on around here. My children are great, and my relationship is moving forward and yet I feel stagnate. Silly. I would like to blame this on motherhood, why not, can't you blame everything on motherhood? But it truly does not have anything to do with motherhood. It has to do with me. Because of this, and other things, I have chosen to take a step back from the online social networks that I am involved in such as Facebook and Twitter. I need to find time for the things I need to do and things I want to do, such as reading, scrapbooking, and blogging amongst other things.
Wow! That was one mouthful of an update. (Smile). I am glad to be able to come here and update.
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